Days I've been in the field...

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Final Thoughts and Last Words

Coming up on 10 hours, and all I can think is "Holy #%*&! I get married today." Its. A bit overwhelming, I'm not gonna lie. Several times last night, Linda suggested we stop and soak it all in. And we did try, but I'm not sure you really can.

So here I am. In maui, on a balcony at 7am. Not because I'm nervous, but because I've been through 5 time zones in the last 48 hours. (I'll explain later.) So I decided to recap all tbhat I have learned.

1. Get involved with the whole thing, but don't take over.
2. Pick your battles. Fight for what's important to you and let the rest go. But be prepared to defend your position repeatedly if necessary.
3. Don't make your own invitations. (Pro Tip!)
4. Be prepared for anything, and I mean anything. She can go from happy to sad to irrate at a monents notice. (I suggest you pack dramamine to counteract the emotional waves.)
5. Remember that people aren't really coming to see you, so do your job and stay out of the way.
6. Rings are expensive. So start saving as soon as you know she's the one. And pay cash if you can.
7. No one is really there for you. Single dudes can't relate, and married guys only want to laugh at you. I suggest finding another engaged guy for support.
8. Remember throughout it all, that there is someone who out of there own free will is promising to hold you down for life.... Don't mess it up.

I didn't do as much with this blog as I intenionally set out to, but its all good. I hope this list covers the bulk of it all as I have seen it. Just know that in my final moments of calm, in the eye of this wedding hurricane, I did this. Now if you will excuse me, I have to go run head first into danger.... See you on the other side.

Friday, February 4, 2011

Coming up on it now...15 days until I become WE. I gotta say, its a bit nerve wracking. Not the "I do" part, because clearly I did a long time ago. The everything after that has me upset. Like being able to provide for a family scares me. Like I got laid off 2 years ago, and I was struggling eating top ramen everyday to stay alive. Imagining that happening again while with a wife and kid scares me to death.

Other than that, I'm in a zone... just on a whole another level. Like you can't find me. I have turned into a rea life Where's Waldo. Friends have called. Friends have sent texts, friends have emailed. But I'm just gone. I'm not purposely trying to ignore them, its just my focus has changed. I'm all wedding at this point. I feel like a horse with blinders on.